First of all, this is not about anybody in particular…honestly. So if you think it is, you’re wrong. It’s an ‘in general’ thing on my mind today. I don’t even really know how it got started in there, but something this morning sparked it and it’s been on my mind all day.
Now that I have that disclaimer out of the way…my fellow blogging friend Stephen at Life Revelation posted a blog awhile ago about lies in our society. It does in fact seem to be something that has become more and more acceptable with people. It’s always been true that people will tell ‘sweet little lies’ to avoid hurting someone, or to avoid confrontations sometimes too. And politicians have pretty much always been pretty good liars for the most part, I would guess…even back before the media ran so rampant and exposed all those lies. Everyone lies. Yes, I know that. I have told lies in my lifetime…the ‘sweet little lies’ thing I was talking about, or when I was a child, lying to my mother sometimes. But I can honestly say that I have never been a very good liar. If you tell a lie, that makes you a liar. That’s the truth. That said, a person who tells certain, milder, sorts of lies, I wouldn’t hold up in the same way as a liar as a person who makes lying a way of life. And there are people like that…they see nothing wrong with lying, and in fact see it as a strength…a smart way to be.
To be fair, sometimes those people think that way because they honestly believe it, due to misfortunes in their life, or ways that they were unjustly treated. But it doesn’t change the fact that a lie is a lie, does it?
Okay, so I just ate some potato salad. If I were to tell you I just ate some mashed potatoes, that would be a lie. But wait…they’re both potatoes, so it’s not that much of a lie, right? What if I thought it was mashed potatoes? Would it still be a lie? Well…probably not. And in the end, a lie about whether you had potato salad or mashed potatoes is really totally unimportant in the scheme of things. It isn’t a lie that would hurt anyone else in any way.
Okay, what about gossip? What if someone tells you something about someone, and you have no reason to know that it’s not true, so you believe it? Then you take that information and innocently pass it along to someone else. Let’s say your intentions are totally above board and out of some sort of concern over the situation. Is that still a lie? Yeah! It doesn’t matter how much you believe a lie, it’s still a lie. And gossip…well, that’s another story anyway, but it can certainly be linked to the topic of lying because of this. And that kind of ‘lie’ is very destructive.
I don’t know. I am not perfect. I will be the first to say I am not perfect and certainly, if you read my blog you know it without me saying it. Ha ha! It’s evident. But I am honest. Wait though…how can I say that? I have already told you that I have lied in the past. In answer…I can say it because I do not lie now. The most recent lie I told was some time ago, trying to be tough and to be like everyone else said you need to be just to survive in this life…and it about destroyed me, and I came clean about 5 minutes afterward. I can’t lie, and I hate lies. And what I’m saying is that while it doesn’t make me perfect, it is a strength, not a weakness. Thinking you have to lie to get ahead…thinking it’s okay to pass on gossip that may or may not be true…and if it is true it’s probably only some variation of the truth anyway…those things can be very destructive, and that isn’t okay!
This is a real issue with me, because if someone lies to me, I can never truly trust that person again. I don’t care who they are. I can maybe ‘sort of’ trust them…but there will always be that little spark of wondering that remains at times. And not only that, but people who live their life in lies, and who know and associate with others who do…they don’t trust either. They’re always suspicious.
Yes, this is what you could call a ‘pet peeve’ of mine I guess. But I see it as more than that. I see it as something that has taken such hold in our society that it’s become okay with people…understood and accepted and overlooked.
Any thoughts about this?